Is Cave of Monsters for You? Are You in the Right Place?
This isn’t a “self-help” blog. We’re not gurus. We don’t have answers.
And if you’re looking for articles like…
- 7 Steps to Happiness,
- One Weird Trick to a Perfect Relationship, or
- The Lazy Way to Get Rich Online…
You’re in the wrong place.
We believe life is chaotic. That there are no black-and-white rules. And trying to put life in a simple, easy-to-swallow package is a waste of time.
That doesn’t mean you can’t find happiness, health, love, wealth, or freedom though.
It’s just that…
We Believe LIFE IS A CRAFT
There’s an element of creativity to it. Complexity. Art. Magic.
Life is something you work at. It takes practice. It requires your presence every day, every waking moment until your dying breath.
It takes being vulnerable with ourselves and others. And our obsession with comfort, certainty, and control resists that at every turn.
Now, this is scary for most people. Us included. But it’s also exciting and thrilling.
Because life is precious… it’s valuable… and so goddamn, absolutely beautiful when we share those moments of humanity… and vulnerability… and connection with each other.
Those are the moments we live for. The moments we strive for. The moments we hold on to long after they’ve passed. The moments we retrieve in our times of loneliness and difficulty. The moments we carry into our twilight years.
And ultimately, that’s what Cave of Monsters is about. It’s about TRULY LIVING LIFE.
If you’re sick of all the empty, “mental junk food” you get online, and are ready to put in the real effort to “craft your life” instead, join us here…
Because here’s the thing…
In order to get to those magical moments and fully appreciate them for what they are…
We Need to Be Ready for Them
We have to put in the work. We have to show up. We have to face our monsters.
In other words, this isn’t a website where you click “like”, “share” or “retweet” and go about your day.
We believe getting the life you want takes real effort, and it’s worth every ounce of struggle you put in.
Now – If that’s not for you, no hard feelings. This isn’t for everyone. In fact, most people on this planet can’t deal with life this way.
Heck, there are a lot of times when we can’t deal with life this way.
A lot of times, instead of living, we choose to numb ourselves instead. Distract ourselves. Hurt ourselves.
And yeah, we know. That’s not what you want to hear from someone putting up a website like this. We’re not “supposed” to talk about this kind of stuff.
But like we said…
We’re not gurus. This isn’t a self-help blog.
So you’re probably wondering…
“Who the Heck Are You Guys?”
We’re Joshua and Tony. We’re behind Cave of Monsters.
Joshua Harbert is a husband, father, copywriter, and 2nd degree black belt in Taekwondo. In 14 years growing up in Kenya, he learned to cherish the beauty and grace of humanity. However, he still often prefers to be left alone so he can make things, wander around Chicago, or be silly with his two daughters.
Tony Leung ghostwrites for a living. Born, bred and raised on the streets of now-gentrified East Van, he retreated to the ‘burbs to raise his three little monsters. You can usually find him staring down his laptop at Starbucks, the library or wherever he can write undisturbed (not home). He dreams of becoming a published fiction author.
At the core though, we’re two guys on a journey.
We’re here to open the doors and walk in first. And we’re simply inviting you to join us as we craft our lives and share our discoveries.
This quote from the philosopher Seneca sums up where we’re coming from…
“… I’m sick myself. I’m talking to you as if I were lying in the same hospital ward, about the illness we’re both suffering from, and passing on some remedies.”1
So, on that note…
If what you’ve read so far has resonated with you… then maybe, just maybe, we have something here, you and us.
And if that’s the case, stick your name and email down below, and we’ll let you know whenever we have something to share…
Our Core Philosophy
Here at Cave of Monsters we want to dig into the flesh and bones of life. We want to push ourselves to the edges and peer into the abyss. We want to rearrange every atom of our soul to be the human beings we were meant to be.
We want to CRAFT OUR LIVES.
We don’t believe you can shortcut your way there with “7 steps”, “one weird trick” or some “quick and easy guide”.
We think, if you do that, you end up paying for it later. (And believe us, we’ve learned this the hard way multiple times.)
The ONLY way to live a free, alive life is to embrace everything. To take complete ownership of your circumstances. To confront the monsters in your life.
For us, this means focusing on 3 main areas…
- Start at Zen Zero:
- Unwind the stories, beliefs, and patterns that keep you stuck.
- Create an inner foundation of courage, strength, and equanimity.
- Notice the beauty and magic of everyday life.
- Your Weapon Is Kindness:
- Act with grace even in the most difficult situations.
- Face your life with boldness and courage.
- Walk into scary situations willingly.
- Create open spaces so you can create freedom for others too.
- Be kind.
- Now ― Reinvent Your Game:
- Define the terms of your life.
- Create your own meaning.
- Feel alive by being in the thick of pursuing your own impossible goal.
That’s a lot to unpack there. We can’t fit it all on one page, but if you subscribe to our blog, you’ll hear us talk about each of these different topics over time.
But Wait… Why Is This Site Called “Cave of Monsters”?
Well, for one, there’s a neat little story behind that name…
One evening the monk Milarepa returned to his cave after gathering firewood, only to find it was full of monsters.
And even though he suspected they were projections of his own mind – all the unwanted parts of himself – he just couldn’t get rid of them.
He tried asking them to leave. He tried lecturing them on the wisdom of the Buddha. He got angry and ran at them.
The monsters didn’t leave. In fact, they laughed at him.
Finally, he gave up and just sat down on the floor, saying, “I’m not going away and it looks like you’re not either, so let’s just live here together.”
And so he did.
And that’s sorta what we’re gonna talk about here. Facing and living with your monsters.
But secondly, we chose the name because it’s kind of silly and ridiculous.
And we like that… because it lets you (and us) know we’re not taking ourselves sooooo seriously. And hopefully, you won’t either.
Joshua & Tony